It is always important to have good relationships with your neighbors. You'll never know when you may 1 . If they do something that make you 2 , it is better to discuss it in a polite way than to have a quarrel (争吵).

For example, if your neighbors are playing loud music that you do not like, ask them 3  to turn down the music instead of calling the police directly for help.

Trees and fences can 4  be a reason that causes disagreement between neighbors. My grandmother likes 5  outside in the sun after lunch, but her neighbor has put up a high 6  that stops sunshine from going into her yard in the early afternoon. My grandmother does not want to be 7  with him, because he gave her a lot of 8  when my grandfather died last year. So she 9  and talked with the neighbor in a friendly way. 

Then, her neighbor lowered the fence just enough to give her some 10  without losing his privacy (私人空间). My grandmother cut down the tree that was above his garden and dropped leaves all over his lawn (草坪) in the autumn. Finally, they reached an agreement which made both pleased.

We feel angry or guilty (内疚的) about the things we did or did not achieve, about the things we cannot have, and many other things. It seems that everyone carries their own bad emotions (情绪). But neither guilt 1 anger can help us. Over time, they can be heavy weights on our 2.

These bad emotions don't do anything good for us 3. So you might ask yourself-is it possible to put down this heavy burden (负担) and give yourself a 4？It is quite possible. Start by actually looking at your feelings. How do they get inside of us? Why do we carry them for so long instead of putting them down? Can we live 5 them?

By thinking about our bad emotions, we can find healthy ways to 6 them. Unhealthy behaviors are not the way to do this. They provide no relief. Instead, there are better ways to handle them. One of the best ways is forgiveness (原谅).

Forgiveness is a powerful tool. We should forgive 7 first. We shouldn't keep bad emotions inside. We must also forgive others who have made us guilty or angry. This is not always easy. But 8 we learn to forgive ourselves, it becomes easier to forgive others as well.

There is nothing good about carrying years of emotional burdens. By forgiving ourselves and others, we can put down our burdens and feel better about ourselves. 9 you do this, you will start to feel a lot lighter. Years of heaviness will be magically lifted! You'll start to feel like you have more 10 and you'll be much happier with your life.

Have you argued with a friend or done anything you regretted? 1 it's hard to put things right, especially when your feelings are hurt. Knowing 2 to apologize (道歉) can help you become friends again and understand why you argue, 3 you'll separate from each other forever.

Why do you argue?

You argue for all kinds of reasons. Your friend's idea is 4 yours about something or your sister always drives you crazy. When you are 5, you may say or do something to hurt others. Arguing with others is quite normal but it's important to 6 it and learn from it

What does an apology mean?

Everybody makes mistakes in his life. Apologizing is a good 7 of admitting (承认) your mistakes. In fact, it's very difficult to say sorry to others. Most of the people think saying sorry means regretting what they've 8 done. But as long as you decide to correct your mistakes, you should 9. It's believed that a good apology needs to show that you're truly sorry, you want to be responsible for what you do and get forgiveness (原谅).

What if (万一) it's not your mistake?

Sometimes the mistakes have 10 to do with you, but another person may force you to say sorry. Be sure to try talking about why you argue at first. If 11 of you still can agree with each other, what should you do? Keep 12 and ask a parent or a teacher for help.

Does apologizing always work?

As far as I know, an apology itself 13 be enough, so try to ask someone else how he felt while you were arguing. Explain your side too, and make 14 clear that you'll try to avoid making the same mistake again. An apology isn't a magic stick. It may 15 people time to understand and forgive.