For most of my life, I didn't like being seen. I went bright red when it was my turn to speak in a group. I hated the teacher asking me something. I even didn't like my family all looking at me! I often tried to hide away and avoid being seen by others！So, it's not strange that I feared speaking in front of others.

Luckily, I've learned to overcome(克服) my problem. Now I love helping others who have the same problem that I once had but want to speak up because they have valuable things to share. I particularly love helping entrepreneurs(企业家) to become more confident. When you help a leader, the impact is so much greater.

Over the years I've discovered that there are three main problems that people have when it comes to speaking in public. The first is a lack of self-belief. They doubt themselves and question whether what they have to say is valuable. The second is a fear of being seen as arrogant(傲慢的). The third is a fear of rejection(拒绝) or a fear of not being liked.

All of these problems are related to mindset, specifically, a fear-based mindset, which is common. These fears stop people from stepping up as the leader and influencer they were born to be. 

If you want to become a more effective influencer, it is so important to work on any fears you have of judgment or rejection. They will be a ball and chain that will hold you back from success. We need to take action though we feel fear. We can't wait for the fear to go away as it won't go away itself. We have to act while we still feel it. And to overcome fears, we should practice. Confidence is attached to progress, and we progress only if we practice. If you don't feel you're progressing, you'll start to lose your confidence and stay stuck in fear.